Being a reader comes with a wider job remit than you might immediately think. Or at least, for me it does. From hearing reports from clients who have been to see other readers first, I do think a lot of readers are happy to just make up a story that fits what they think the client wants to hear.
That leaves me with the glamorous work of delivering:
"Sorry, Jessica, but there's no way he's going to leave his wife after you guys had an affair in the photocopy room regardless of how many readers have told you otherwise."
Either that, or there's the opposite end of the spectrum, which is "You already know the answer, you don't need me to tell you. Use your intuition." I personally love that one. It's like ermmm…"So, why did I pay for that?"
What they really mean is “I'm not going to do the work of actually reading for you.” It's the Barnum effect with a spiritual costume on.
But being a reader also doesn't mean just "giving people the answers." Trust me, my life would be a lot simpler if it did, but I don't get let off the hook by the spirit world on that one. And anyway, I know from my own experience of being in those shoes that it's not right and I wouldn't want to do that to you either.
What it means is being a responsible steward and facilitator of you finding your own way through a situation. It means being a translator on behalf of your guides and Higher Self, but also your earthly ally for owning your own shit. And sometimes it means just being there to listen when everyone else has lost interest. A cosmic agony aunt or customer service agent.
The thing is, woo-woo as it sounds — we are all one. You, me, your guides, your Higher Self, all of it. Same consciousness dressed in different pyjamas. That's how I can tap into all of it. That's how you can too. And that's why it doesn't matter whether it comes through me, your guides, the postman, or the video that just pops up "randomly" in your YouTube feed. The answer is the answer. It shows up when you're ready to see it.
That's also why booking in for a reading is a big deal. It's not so much about the reading itself as it is about making that commitment towards change. It could be the worst reading in the world in that sense, and you could still get a lot of value from it, because it's about what you're saying you're ready to open to.
But of course, a good reader knows how to work with that in a way the "he's going to leave her just as soon as he's mown the lawn" crowd wouldn't.
The actual reason you haven't known the answer until now? You've been managing it — keeping it small, keeping it contained. Keeping it "not yet." Why? Because it's been a load-bearing wall for you. Because saying it out loud means changing your life. And that takes a bit of psyching yourself up around. Again, that's what a good reader will do for you. In this case "you already know" is an acknowledgement that the work has already been done, and the reading was the permission to stop managing it. The difference between "I told you what to do" and "I told you what you'd already decided and you just needed someone to say it back to you so you could stop pretending you hadn't." The second one is not a cop-out. It's the actual mechanism.
Then, suddenly, the walls come down and you realise you're not in the box you thought you were in and it feels so obvious because a part of you did know it all along. And the reader kind of did nothing and kind of facilitated all of it at the same time. When you have that perspective shift and see the wider context of what's going on, you can work it out for yourself. You don't need anyone to tell you "you should leave" when what you've just witnessed is "I've been in this pattern three times, and this is the third time, and the structure is the same, and the only thing that's different this time is that I'm finally ready to see it." The first is a verdict. The second is context. And context is what changes the decision, not the answer. Another lover who seems keen then ghosts you. Another colleague determined to steal your thunder. Whatever it is. It's not about managing the pieces on the chessboard of the scenario any longer. It's about permission to step out of the game.
So, if you leave a reading thinking 'oh, I already knew that' and you also leave feeling like something shifted in your body and you can finally breathe — that's not a cop-out. That's the work.
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